Life Coaching- Time for Change

Is change necessary to live a better life?

I have never met a challenge in life that did not change me in some fashion and most of the time it was for the better. Life is about change and you can look around you everyday and see those changes. If we never changed, we would never see achievement. When we try to further our knowledge and become more accomplished, we have changed and if we learned something new; we have grown in some aspect of our life. We meet with obstacles everyday in our life and our reaction to those obstacles is what defines us and changes us one way or the other. There is no life from where I am without change.

Perfection

I do not think that change means we must become perfect. Someone mentioned perfection to me last week and my answer was that I do not see perfection in the world that we live in. Perfection means faultlessness, excellence, quality,completeness, maturity, merit, precision and many other things. It might be something that we work toward because it can only make us better; but the key is to know that regardless of how superior we feel in our growth or change; we are all still mortals looking for exquisiteness. It is like being successful; we strive toward it; it is a journey..do we ever reach the final stage? It depends on the individual's perception of it, I am most certain.

Perfection also means unblemished, masterpiece....superexcellence (goodness). Unblemished makes me think about our faults, and we all have them, don't you think? Mine may be more than your and mine may be worse than yours, but I will just bet if you look deep enough, you can find a flaw which may need a little attention so that it does not get larger or more apparent to others. I do not think we can ever be a masterpiece within ourselves, I think that we try to be full of goodness, relevation and hope but if we are striving for perfections in our life; we are making our way too hard. Only the little baby could be any of these beautiful words..I think, that is why Christ said we must become as little children; striving for the meekness, humbleness, and unblemished life again. Is it possible to reach the perfection state as we were when we were born? You answer that one...

It is never easy to want something so bad you can taste it but there are circumstances which will not allow it to happen. It is probably to your advantage that it can't be done; now...

Example: I will tell you some of my flaws that I lived through but wonder how much better off I would have been, if I had not been able to make the changes. There is nothing wrong with wanting a better job, a better future or a better life. There is nothing wrong with wanting to increase your ability to provide for your family and there is nothing wrong with making changes that are consistent with your family needs. When this becomes a problem is when you do not take no for an answer and continue to do whatever it is you want to do, at all cost. I have done the latter and then reaped the consequences down the road..now that is being bull-headed and going down the wrong path. But, I learned and I grew more than once. So admitting your faults is another road to recovery and change. I just did. No, I don't do that now, because my career has changed, and I am older. I am contented where I am at the moment and do not think that is going to change as my youth has gone downstream....and your's will also; so now is the time to make sound, stable decisions.

If you can't change something due to certain circumstances; leave it alone and try something else....that is just my advice.

It is never easy to admit we have something about us that is not pleasant. It doesn't matter what it is; if it is noticed by someone else, we should try to change. Little things may not mean a lot, but if it bothers someone else; it means something and any accomplishment gets us started down the right road.

Okay, here is mine...one of them...I sometimes speak too loud. Yes, there is a reason for this. I have a hearing problem so I cannot tell how loud I am sometimes but regardless of the reason, I do not want to be considered a loud woman who is disruptive and embarrass my husband. He does not mind telling me when I do this, but if he did not tell me, I would not know it...it is loving constructive criticism.

Sometimes changing the little things helps us see the larger, more important areas of our life that just might needs a little change. Maybe we procrastinate and our partner hates it. Maybe we are full of anxiety and can't make decisions period..but we know that we want to change and become more satisfied with our life. Whatever it is that someone tells us we need a little help in; we should look at this as our angel of light, giving us some points to consider.