Personal Development in Our Life with Growth and Change

Is there anyone here who does not need a little "Personal Development?" I will move on and not wait for the answer but I can answer this question very speedily. No...I do not think so! Why, are you saying that I need to change and that my personality is not developed....? No, that is not the focus and I am not criticizing anyone..not really. I am only trying to give all of us some mineful hints that almost everyone of us; and the people we meet on a daily basis could use some kind of personal development within the their life .....if only to make their life more beautiful.

I first of all, write about these issues because of having worked extensively with many different individuals and having experienced many levels of development in my own life, find it possible that many humans fail to see the need for extended or even possible personal growth at any stage in their life. "They are born perfect and there is not need to explore "Personal growth and Development."

When saying that we could all use more personal growth or development; let me enlighten you as to some things we could possibly need and not see it.

Change is inevitable; because each day we change in some fashion...we learned a new way to deal with our co-worker today..we learned that to be accepted we have to accept. So we changed. When we change, we grow. It does not mean that we use the growth in the correct form it is intended but at any rate; we grow.

I do believe that there is any individual who is exactly comfortable with every action in their life or should I say possibly some inaction in their life. Examples:

• the phone call you do not want to return
• the confrontation with a child who has misbehaved
• the meeting with the boss
• you worry about how you are seen by your co-workers
• you are not connecting to the people you work with
• you do not know why you cannot connect with other people
• you play out your speeches
• you are thinking that your speech did not go over and it worries you
• you would love to forget your inabilities and focus on your positive abilities
• you would like to feel more self confidence
• no one knows it but your are insecure
• you would like to feel successful most of the time, but you do not
• you would like to feel more satisfaction
• you would like to feel more enthusiasm
• you would like to feel important
• you would like to be relaxed
• you feel anxious and would like not to
• you need to get more done, but can't seem to
• you need to lose weight but have not taken the step
• you need to exercise but can't get started
• you would love to be able to motivate others
• you need to influence others but can't seem to
• you would love to make all of your relationships better; but do not know exactly wha tis needed
• you would just like to improve your life period

I will stop here and if you do not have any of these; then you are possibly "perfect." But....I still doubt it.

I have seen individuals who really thought that if they needed some change in their life, it was degrading. I believe that it is degrading to think we are perfect and that we do not need change. I am sure that some of my behaviors, reactions, temperaments need changes, even as I write this. I know that I need improvement in my writing and I am striving for new methods and abilities to become better at it and I shall with time.

Personal development is when we know we need to do something that would make our life better; it does not mean that we are bad, inconsistent (hopefully), stable or not doing anything right but we "want" to do things better and to the highest of quality and at top performance. Changing ones life for the better does not take away stability..it will enhance our stability. It will make us greater in ways we do not even think about because in reaching for development in one area we will probably find other ways to be more successful in our life and relationships.

I do not believe that this is for the high achievers only...I believe it should be for everyone.

What if:

• each person received an appraisal review on our personal life as we do in our professional career
• each of us knew our life would not be as good if we failed in our actions of improving ourselves...
• each of us took the time to evaluate ourselves more than we evaluate others
• each of us took the time to spread cheer to those around us instead of being gloomy
• each of us would give in to someone else's dream instead of being focused on our own
• each of us could think about how we are really living our life and we will not reap a good reward, if we act indifferently and without consciousness; just like in our professional career....We do not get a raise if we do not act and have a performance that is noticable to our boss...

Why settle for a life that is half empty? Why would anyone want to live life partially? I don't and I do not think that anyone who loves achievement does. If we seek to improve ourselves, we are seeking excellence and if we are doing it in the right quanities; then we are on the right tract.

Our accomplishments are meansured by our actions. We do not have to tell anyone we are great parents; they will know it by how much time we spend with our children. We will not have to tell our spouse that we love them; because our actions will prove it. We will speak lovingly, respectfully and we will listen in return. We will not have to tell anyone about our spiritual self because our actions prove that we live our life in harmony with spiritual guidance. We will not have a need to say; "I'm the boss" because we fulfill our duties with respect toward everyone and there is no need to boast.

 Set some rules, some guidelines, some needs and take some action toward those.

• make a journal
• make a personal development plan
• make a list of areas of change you would like to see in yourself
• make a list of areas of change you would like to see in others; and if it is could possibly be you that needs to change...instead of them
• make a list of your attributes
• make a list of your character traits
• make a list of your potential
• make a list of your accomplishments
• make a list of what you feel is lacking in your life

AND, seek to know youself.......