Valentine Love Words 2012

This year will be a year of significance for me on Valentines because my Mom is gone. Only a few short weeks ago in fact. I will not mourn her passing but, celebrate her living. She had an enormous amount of love. She loved to give to others, even when she did not have much to give. To me that signifies that within she had a need to make other feel good about themselves and special. I will always remember her love and her giving spirit.

That is what Valentines is about; we do not have to just give to our loved ones; we should reach out and give something to someone who might not have someone to love or someone to love them back... Reach Out this Valentines!

There is nothing that can quite explain the feeling that goes with these three little words, I love you when spoken from the love of our life, our children, or Mom and Dad. Let me see if I can even remotely begin to describe them.

From a woman's point of view; these three little words from a loving relationship with our partner is like a flow of fresh blood through our veins. It rushes through the body and flows straight to the heart and we feel such a glow; actually at this moment no speech is required, only a returned "I love you too." It is though the universe is swirling around and around like a merry-go-round and it seems there is nothing that exist, only you and he. When you deeply love this person, a gentle touch is quite sufficient if nothing more. No bells or sirens, just a silence with a loss in time.....for that moment....

AND, then we bounce back to reality and know that nothing last forever, right? Right! We enter our regular time zone and get on with life but those moments keep us going and help us go at life a little bit more excitedly. Men, woman need these words more often than men do...not that it makes the love more real or less real, but a simple embrace, a smile, a thank you even after a hard days work...means all the world to a woman.

The moments described above are rare I think, once we get older and come down to earth and get settled into our life with our loved one. So many men, not all of them but many, find it hard to tell their love how they feel and especially lay it out in; I love you...Why? My guess is that it gives them a sense of being out of control, out of command, somehow a little weak. It doesn't mean they do not feel it, but they hold it in because they are afraid if they say it too much, they might lose their masculinity.. or be taken for granted. Just my opinion.

My husband doesn't say these words much either, but on Valentines he gives me the most beautiful cards with the words written all over them...and the most romantic expressions inside. He lets it all out in the card....actually sometimes it seems totally unlike him because he is a teaser most of the time with me, but when I get these cards...I have no doubt how he feels. Not so much just because of the cards but because we have shared many years with ups and downs, and now we are settled into a deeper relationship where we just know what we know and nothing else matters. The cards have always been his way of saying things he could not say out loud.

These words even melt anger to a compromise tone, they make one feel superior for the moment and like we just have eaten our favorite ice cream. They make you feel like your world is whole and that nothing is missing.

Valentine flowers are beautiful and bring a woman such joy. They smell good, they don't make us fat...they make us feel special...now the candy is another story. It is chocolate with nuts and it will help us add on a few pounds but since we do not have it often, we love sharing it with our spouse.

I can smell the roses now...or whatever he decides to get. It makes the house smell fresh like nothing else. These moments are cherished by all women, whether they tell you guys or not...it is such a beautiful display of what love is, but on the same note; actions speak loud...a kiss, a hug, a smile, a note, a dinner date, a compliment, a visit to their Mom...anything that shows appreciation for all they do in a family.

Flowers bring a meaning to a relationship, with the soil, the seed and then the bloom of a life built together. They are an expression of how love begins, how it unfolds over time and then how it blooms into a beautiful colored floral and sometimes just the foliage. There in nothing more beautiful for an expression of love.

When two "hearts" gets intertwined with a lasting love it is a beautiful thing. It gives rest for any soul and every soul needs it. They may say they do not, but psychology says we are all pretty much the same...we need love and appreciation, to be respected and valued.

Love covers a multitude of sin...Love heals all things...Love is kind, love is blind!

I hope every single person who is in love gets what they want and need on February 14th, but in saying that; I also include that  I hope for you it is real and not fake or delusional.  These words are spoken a lot time out of context, out of need, out of someone just trying to please.  These are powerful words.  They are not empty words, they hold value, they are like the best diamonds. Bright stones, pure, white and full of sparkle.  These words are omnipotent.  They makes us girls feel beautiful, like we can conquer all, yet they should not be spoken inappropriately.

Love is many things to different people.  At lot of people now days, seem to have it all mixed up, I think.  Some seem to think that we must love within our status, within our rank.  Well, if Ugly Betty has taught us anything, it has told us that smart people exist everywhere and it does not mean they are rich and not only are they not ugly because their beauty shine through from their soul. Love has nothing to do with material possessions, yet sometimes material possessions keeps people from knowing what real love is.  Love is a connection of two souls. 

Mom's love is like an angel, it is soft, it is pure and it is without dissimulation. No need to worry about Mom's love.  It will sacrifice, it will bend the rules, it will flow forever and ever. It will not cheat on you, it will not forsake you...Mom's love is everlasting.

She may grow old, she may even forget somethings that you did when you were a child but she will never loose that loving touch, that giving spirit, that wanting to be near you sometimes. Mom may be old fashion but that's what made us who we are with our values of real life, not the gritty "anything" goes. 

Mom's love is blind, but it is also truthful, her love is deep, like the ocean and ever flowing....Mom's love is divine.